There seems to be this constant search we all have for sincere joy in our lives. It’s difficult to be content in a world where we’re constantly being busy off to the next thing after the next thing.

Our minds are always on, always being used, and we need to know how to manage our mind and speak life into it! Especially because our mind is the source of all that we think.

Today, I’m going to share with you 4 ways to start your journey towards joy.


Make a List of Things You Like About Yourself


First, what you have to do is make a list of the things you like about yourself, the good qualities you have, what you’ve been blessed with. Write a note to yourself and keep it in a place where you can look at it. Maybe it is by your nightstand or taped to your mirror.


Practice Being Happy For Others


Second, when you see good things happen to other people, practice being happy for them. We can be so quick to compare ourselves, to envy, or be jealous of something someone else has.

You have to remember, you don’t know their whole life – and everyone is fighting some sort of battle, going through some sort of trial. You’ve got to practice being happy for other people.


Stop Saying Negative Things About Yourself


Stop saying negative things about yourself out loud. Breaking that habit is going to quiet the voice in your brain telling you those things! Even give that negative voice a name and be conscious of what moments that negative voice is acting out.

Maybe there are some unresolved emotions or beliefs you have about yourself that need to be undone or unbelieved. Declare good things over yourself. Speak life into who you are.

This is something you and your therapist can explore together too. Your tongue is so powerful. Be careful what you put out into the world and how you talk to yourself. Think back to the nine year old you and how she or he would feel about you saying those things about yourself. Try to be who you needed when you were younger.


Let Go of Being Easily Offended


Fourth, let go of being easily offended. Let things roll off your back like water rolls off a duck’s back. When you find yourself feeling out of place or unbalanced, ask yourself, “what about this moment is making me feel off center or insecure?”

You don’t have to act on those emotions or feelings, but just acknowledge them and be curious about them instead of becoming a slave or victim to them.

And if you need more support in finding and expressing joy in your life, don’t hesitate to reach out and schedule an appointment today. We’re here to help.

Olivia Neal

Olivia Neal

Adolescents, Young Adults, & Couples

I specialize in helping couples, adolescents, and young adults believe in themselves and their capabilities so they can experience joy and contentment in everyday life and in the relationships that are important to them.

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